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  • Offerings
    • DETANGLING THE HUMAN HEART 4 Week Program
    • Full Circle 200 & 300 HR YTT
    • FROM DANGEROUS TO DEVOTED
    • MOVE WITH ME
    • Meditate With Me
    • 1 x 1 Sessions
  • WHO AM I?
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DEtangling The Human HEART
A path FROM TRauma to tantra

April, 2023​

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​"A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."​
-- Carl Jung
EVERYTHING STARTS FROM WITHIN. INCLUDING THE LOVE STORY. THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE OUR NEEDS, DESIRES, AND FEARS DETERMINES THE LENS IN WHICH WE SEE THE WORLD.  THE WAY IN WHICH WE ARE LOVED, AND HOW WE GIVE LOVE IS DETERMINED WITH HOW WELL WE KNOW OUR NEEDS, BOUNDARIES AND FEARS. WE MUST FIND THE WAYS IN WHICH THE WORLD HAS RELATED TO US THAT HAS CREATED DISHARMONY IN OUR INTERNAL RELATING SYSTEMS. FROM THIS DISCOVERY WE CAN FIND NEW PATHWAYS TO RELATING TO OURSELVES AND THE WORLD BEYOND OUR OWN EXPERIENCES. THIS HELPS CREATE SAFETY, FEELINGS OF INCLUSION, CONFIDENCE AND HEALTHY DISCERNMENT.

IN THIS WORKSHOP WE TRAVEL INWARDS TO MEET OUR SHADOW, AND FIND WAYS TO SURFACE AND INTEGRATE THE FRAGMENTED PARTS OF OUR BEING TO FIND MORE WHOLENESS.

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We each live with different forms and variants of trauma. How we react to the experiences we have been through is what makes or stifles our healing and integration. The coping mechanisms and survival strategies that we have used to create walls around our minds and hearts throughout our lifetime in order to protect ourselves, we find are no longer protecting us but blinding us and separating us from what it is we truly desire. Connection, love, safety, stability, and trust. ​
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On this journey, we travel deeply inwards to meet our shadow selves. At the core wounding, we dig at our roots, to tear up any loose foundation that is shaky, unstable, and unsettling for our mental health, and physical. 
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This program is for those who are ready to do the hard work that comes from healing and integrating their known and unknown traumas. The human experience in itself is a challenging one. Uncertainty, loss, fear, rejection, and existential angst are all elements that can leave us feeling lost at sea, alone, and left behind. 
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When we have been neurologically patterned to see the world from a certain disorganized/imbalanced lens of reality, it can make it nearly impossible to feel safe in the world. And this means it makes it incredibly difficult to feel safe in a relationship to another. Even more, so many of us that live with trauma may feel incredibly unsafe and dissociated in our own bodies.  We may have a difficult time accessing true needs, boundaries, fears, and desires.  ​
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On this journey, we learn ways in which to transform our burdens into the building blocks of personal growth, transformation, resiliency, and relational evolution. We learn to empower ourselves, to put ourselves first, to release shame and repression, to find peace with pleasure, and to come home fully to our bodies. And to outwardly find safety, pleasure, and confidence in connecting to others in healthy sovereign relationships where we do not fall victim to co-dependency, trauma bonds, or toxic patterns of relational dependency.
Moving from the healing of trauma to presence and deeper self-expression is a long road for many. Especially in cases of physical or sexual abuse. If your body has been a point of contention and a battlefield for your experiences, it may take time to come back into associating it with safety. But it is possible. So many individuals who have suffered trauma have had difficulty in sexual expression, and sovereignty due to a lack of a safe container to allow themselves to surrender and trust. 
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If you are reading this, you are already deeply on your journey. You wouldn’t have found this if you weren’t. So the first invitation is to give gratitude to yourself, for you are curious, open, and exploring the world and your relationship to it. This is a brave space for you to dive deeper than you have before. Into the shadows we go to find the gold, the light, the left behind. We embrace instead of turn away. We face instead of avoid. And we find another way, a healthier way to live our one unique life in these human bodies we've been granted. We can learn to love them, to enjoy them, to find pleasure in them, and to trust them.​

​“The shadow is needed now more than ever. We heal the world when we heal ourselves, and hope shines brightest when it illuminates the dark.”
--Sasha Graham

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In all my years of breathing into this human experience, I was never taught how to love, and to be loved, how to say no, and how to know my full fuck yes….yes. In all my years no one told me to put myself first, or what it meant to self love, to please, and to even like myself. In all those years no one told me or showed me what unconditional love really looked like. In all those years I suffered immensely. I wore the victim role with great belief that that was all that I truly was. I was surviving for many decades, but I was not fully living. The tools, processes, stories, and pathways presented in this course have been inspired by every teacher, lover, and combatant in my life. For every one that stayed when I ran, for everyone that ran when I stayed, for every therapist, for every medicine that shed light on my shadow…I deeply bow to you for your part on my path. It is because of your efforts or lack thereof that I have put this program together. For us, for all of us. Because we deserve better.

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​"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances:
​if there is any reaction, both are transformed."

--Carl Jung
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TESTIMONIALS

" As someone who has done a lot of personal work and worked professionally in the fields of trauma resolution and wellness, I wasn't sure how much I would benefit from the Trauma to Tantra workshop. However, I gave into my curiosity and invested in it anyway. I was amazed at how relevant it all was to my life and my current experiences and I was blown away at how much NEW information I obtained. Echo's teaching style is a healthy balance of  personable and professional and you can tell she has a plethora of knowledge to share and has done a lot of personal work herself. I left the workshop feeling energized, insightful and hopeful for a full recovery from my current symptoms related to trauma. But also I left with a sense of contentment and acceptance with the fact that healing might look differently than I imagine. The workshop inspired me to let go of my expectations around this and to stop trying to hold the reigns so tightly, to stop trying to control or rush my healing. Instead I feel a deep trust in the process and carry the reminder that this moment is where the medicine truly lays and that in staying present we hold great power. I left armed with more tools than I had prior and am excited to implement them. I could see shifts in others attitudes and hopefulness over the course of the workshop as well and to experience that as a collective, especially in such a short time, was so touching and beautiful. I highly recommend this workshop as well as Echo as a teacher. Her authenticity and transparency gives her an edge that allows for a feeling of safety in her presence and encourages an ability to dive deeper into practice, as well as gain confidence and a greater knowing of who we really are. I felt guided to look inward and to trust myself first rather than to look to someone or something outside of me and from that place everything is possible. " 

--Anjali Libera


"The trauma to tantra workshop gave real-life tools that I immediately implemented. The trust, space, knowledge, and compassion Echo brings says wonders about her practice and this spirit as a teacher."
--Megan 


​"Where do I start??
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Going through this course this week has been unravelling and healing for me. For the first time I feel like I can see myself and my patterns clearly, and I take accountability for my actions and my role in situations.
 
I’ve learnt so much. And if I were to share everything, I could write a whole book. There is so much depth, so much beauty within me that I have not seen in a long time, and this week I have written more than I have ever written in my entire life in terms of self reflection. I feel like if I were to start sharing, I would just overflow and I wouldn’t be able to stop.
 
And the beauty of it all is that I know that I’m only scratching on the surface and there is a lot more to discover, a lot more layers of the onion to unpeel.
 
Up to this point, I’ve always seen my healing as something external to myself – like a destination I had to reach, something in the distance, very far away from me. But I’ve realized now that it’s not “away” from me – it’s within me – it’s layers that I’m peeling and unravelling, skin that I’m shedding. I’m going back home to me. And this is course – what I’ve learned – is only one layer.
 
There is also a story I want to share that I feel maybe best encapsulates everything that I’ve learnt.
 
It’s been a year since I’ve been on this journey of self awareness. And I have learnt a lot theoretically, but not so much in a practical, real, every day sense. Despite learning all these theories, like narcissistic abuse, inner child healing, I have still continued playing out the same patterns and I have not been able to integrate my theoretical learning into my life, my thoughts, and the decisions that I make daily. I had all this knowledge but I haven’t been able to apply it to be place that was most important and the place I needed the most – the present moment. And I have allowed situations to take control of me and I haven’t been able to break out of old patterns.
 
This week I have seen real change in myself. And it’s really crazy to think that it’s only been a week since this course started. I feel like I have learned so much spiritually and emotionally this week than I have in the past 1 year. It became really apparent to me when I examined my relationship with my partner.
 
To give some context, we have been together for almost 5 years. We are very co-dependent in an unhealthy way. We are both anxious and avoidant attachers and we have both undergone trauma and we are both going through our own spiritual journey – in different ways.
 
Despite being together for nearly 5 years, we have a lot of trouble communicating. I realized, through this course, I have a very effective superpower of disassociation. I disassociate from my body – and because of the child sexual abuse, this was not surprising. But the surprisingly part I learnt was my ability to disassociate from my mind. Through journaling and reflecting this week, I realized it was a survival strategy for me to continue living in my house when I was a child. Growing up, my mom could say very cruel things to me. Unspeakable things. Things that I don’t even want to repeat ever because it’s horrible. And that’s where my superpower came in. Whenever she said something hurtful to me, I could block it out and forget. And that was what I needed to do to keep in living in that house. But I see now that that superpower has hindered me and is no longer serving me. Because I’m not able to listen if I perceive I am being threatened.
 
And by being “threatened”, I really just mean like if someone says something that I perceive as criticizing me, I will very skilfully be able to turn the entire situation around and be like, “well, what about you?” bla bla bla, as a way of deflecting the conversation from myself. My adaptive child was protecting me from hearing what I perceived as hurtful.
 
And it has hurt my relationship because we have been falling into the same patterns, which is – there is an issue – he brings it up – I perceive it as a threat – it escalates into a fight, because of my survival strategy, which is fight or flight – I fight – and he says something along the lines of “you are just like your mother” – and that’s so hurtful to me that I then turn into the victim and I cry and then I flee – and then he feels bad and comes around and apologizes – and then we hug and just move on. The original issue never gets resolved and it’s a vicious cycle. You can just imagine how damaging it’s been for both of us, because we haven’t been able to have difficult conversations and yet we’ve continued staying together because we are co-dependent.
 
This week we had another difficult conversation – something else that he brought up – he was just sharing his truth about a situation – and again I perceived it as a threat. But as it was happening, I felt it in my body. I felt my adaptive child coming up. I felt my chest tighten, my heart started beating faster and my body was getting ready to fight. And for the first time, I didn’t run away from it. I didn’t go into my fight mode. I noticed it. And I went into it. I went into that discomfort. And I breathed. And I told myself that I could handle those emotions. And that it was more important for me to be curious about his experience, and for him to feel like it was for him safe to explore those feelings. That was the same day we did the writing prompt about being able to create a safe space for ourselves. And as we were talking, I asked him – do you feel safe with me? Do you feel safe to have this conversation with me? And he said no. And I shouldn’t have been shocked, but I was – which just goes to show how out of touch I have been with my partner and with his reality. For the first time I actively listened. I had to repeat it back to him for myself to understand – and it was so hard. My brain couldn’t latch onto the words –it took me like 3 or 4 times to really be able to repeat accurately what he was saying back to him. But he met me with understanding. And that really reminded me of something Echo said in the course, which was – tell your partner how you feel and see how they react to it. If they are open, they can remain in your life. And I was met with openness and kindness. 
 
I shared my truth with him, what I’ve learnt, and I turned the situation back on myself. I took responsibility for my role in our failure to communicate all these years. He said that was the first time we managed to have a conversation where he felt seen and heard and that didn’t escalate into a fight. And that’s big, because it took 5 years. I wanted to share this, because I wanted to share how this course has actually helped me practically in my life, not just theoretically. And at the end of it all, I feel more intimate, closer to my partner, than further away. And I feel closer to myself.
 
The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that just being aware and acknowledging things is enough. This whole time I’ve viewed healing as this big mountain that is so far away that I couldn’t overcome. But now my only expectation is to be aware, notice what comes up in my body, and breathe. And the healing will follow.
 
Thank you to everyone for sharing your stories – I have listened to them and I know that I’m not alone. And thank you to Echo for holding the space, sharing these invaluable lessons, you have touched my life in a profound way and I cannot express it in words. I hope that you can feel my love and gratitude. Thank you."

--Anonymous Student